Over-weight party planner Bob (Jonathan Lisecki) wonders if he’s ever going to meet the right guy. A chance meeting with semi-celeb chef Andy (Nicholas Brendon) takes Bob on a romantic rollercoaster that is both surprising and revealing. As his relationship with Andy progresses, Bob finds that he has to battle his own demons and learn to accept himself if he’s ever going to be truly happy.
Written and directed by Ringo Le, Big Gay Love was funded through a Kickstarter campaign last year. Big Gay Love is a film about self-acceptance and living in a world that is obsessed with body image and beauty. At the centre of it all is Bob, a man who suffers from very low self-confidence but is desperate to be happy and in love. His chance encounter with Andy holds much promise but it doesn’t take Bob long to start second-guessing the relationship and questioning why a man like Andy would be interested in him.
Over the course of the film Bob becomes a victim of his own sabotage whilst Andy is left bewildered by the behaviour of his new boyfriend. Frequently Bob misjudges his relationship with Andy either going in far too fiercely or being so painfully shy that he starts to give off the impression that he’s not really interested in his new beau. A scene early on sees Andy begin to question where the relationship is going as Bob does everything he can to avoid getting naked and being intimate with him.
The performance of the two leads is the film’s strength. Jonathan Lisecki, best-known for his critically-acclaimed movie Gayby, puts in a sensitive performance as Bob and you really feel for him throughout the movie, despite some undeniably poor choices made by the character. Opposite him is Nicholas Brendon, best-known for playing Xander on Buffy The Vampire Slayer, and his performance really surprises. He hasn’t been as high profile as his former Buffy co-stars but he proves with this role that he is actually the strongest actor out of all of them. His performance is perfectly played and we were really impressed.
Big Gay Love is a sweet romantic comedy with a lot of heart to it. It makes a valid point about how the average man may feel in the gay world when surrounded by pin-ups, beefcakes and seemingly perfect hunks; after all that’s the only images we see when we look to marketing for gay brands such as Andrew Christian and other underwear giants. Big Gay Love shows that insecurities plague us all, no matter your size, and living in the modern gay world isn’t exactly a walk in the park.